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ARE YOU BEING ABUSED?

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ARE YOU BEING ABUSED? Here Are Some Signs To Look For!

Signs of Emotional Abuse

  • Insulting you, calling you names, criticizing you, humiliating you especially in public
  • Exhibiting signs of jealousy or possessive behavior
  • Accusing you of being with other partners
  • Accusing your family and friends of trying to sabotage your relationship
  • Withholding affection or acknowledgement in order to punish you
  • Cheating on you intentionally and openly
  • Lying to you, stalking you, refusing to leave when asked
  • Attacking your sense of self worth
  • Disrespecting your feelings, your rights and your opinions
  • Making it difficult for you to establish and maintain friendships
  • Reading your mail, monitoring phone calls and checking or destroying your cell phone
  • Hiding your keys and your identification
  • Always threatening to take the children away from you or threatening to harm them

Signs of Financial Abuse

  • Preventing you from having access to your bank accounts or your joint accounts
  • Providing you an allowance
  • Monitoring your sending habits
  • Deciding what can or cannot buy
  • Making withdrawals or transfers from your bank accounts without your permission
  • Refusing to contribute to shared household expenses such as rent, groceries, utilities, childcare, etc.
  • Refusing to work and support the family
  • Not allowing you to work or attend school or learn new skills
  • Interfering with your job
  • Preventing you from owning a car and monitoring your travels

Signs of Psychological Abuse

  • Threatening to harm you, your loved ones, your pets, your children, or your possessions
  • Monitoring where you are at all times of the day and night
  • Controlling how much time you spend with friends, family, co-workers
  • Controlling and criticizing what you wear, often with the accusation that you attract too much attention
  • Destroying or stealing your belongings
  • Blaming you for the abuse, saying that you deserve what happens or that you instigated the problem
  • Gaslighting: saying things to make you question your perception of reality, such as “That never happened, you never remember correctly”
  • Manipulating your children, your friends and family members
  • Creating impossible rules and abusing you for violating them
  • Insistent on being right about everything
  • Keeping weapons and threatening to use them

Signs of Verbal Abuse 

  • Attacking your sense of self-worth
  • Is excessively jealous and accuses you of being unfaithful.
  • Criticizes or puts you down; says you are crazy, stupid, and/or fat/unattractive, or that no one else would ever want or love you.
  • Rages out of control with you but can maintain composure around others.
  • Finds the things that others like most about you and uses it to make you feel worthless.
  • Humiliates you in public.
  • Uses anything that makes you happy as a format for debate and criticism.
  • Listens to your conversations as means to verbally attack you for what was said or what he / she thinks was said.
  • Twist your words during conversations to initiate an argument.
  • Makes repetitive negative comments consistently so that they become ingrained in your daily thoughts.
  • Blames you for his behavior, accuses your words or actions to instigate confrontations / arguments.

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Signs of Sexual Abuse

  • Demanding sexual acts that make you uncomfortable or unwilling to perform
  • Forcing sex when you’re not feeling well or unwilling to comply
  • Degrading you physically and verbally
  • Using violence such as hitting or using objects to torture you

Signs of Destruction

  • Driving Recklessly
  • Abusing alcohol and / or drugs
  • Deliberately causing trouble or acting out in public
  • Threatening self-harm or suicide
  • Punching holes in the walls
  • Destroying furniture, clothing and personal treasures
  • abusing pets and items that are meaningful to you
  • displaying self-destructive behaviors such as alcohol / drug abuse
  • Reckless driving
  • Threatening self-harm or suicide
  • Purposely causing trouble especially in public

 

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