ARE YOU SERIOUSLY THINKING OF CONFRONTING THE OTHER WOMAN?
7 THINGS TO CONSIDER:
I am sure by now, since you have found out that your spouse / intimate partner is having an intimate / affair with another person, you have been stressing and obsessing over the who, when why and what is your partner’s mindset. Granted, there may be extenuating factors as to why you want to stay with and fight for your partner. Perhaps you Love him, perhaps you have children, a business and or financial investments, reasons all of which appear in the article, Why Women Fight for and Stay with Men who Cheat.
If you are considering confronting the other woman, why not first ask yourself: What is this situation doing to you Emotionally: Are you questioning your self-worth, are you obsessing over who she is, what does she look like, why does he want her, what does she have that you do not? Physically: Are you losing sleep, are you unable to eat, are you feeling depressed, afraid, angry, unable to concentrate or loss of enjoyment in your daily life? Spiritually: Are you questioning your faith, are you no longer attending church, are you angry with GOD, are you losing your faith in marriage and its lifetime commitment?
Now that you have considered those factors, you need to ask yourself: Why would you want to confront the other woman: Will seeing her make you feel better? Will seeing them together help you determine what he likes about her? Will talking to her help you to gain an understanding of why YOUR husband is cheating on YOU? Perhaps if you are totally committed to staying with a man you cannot TRUST, you may want to by any means necessary confront the other woman, and assess the whys, when and what is it about her, or in some cases ALL of the other women he’s involved with that would make him do something that would hurt you so deeply and maybe so intentionally.
The more effective option would be to FOCUS ON THE REAL MARRIAGE OR RELATIONSHIP HOMEWRECKER – YOUR HUSBAND OR INTIMATE PARTNER. The answers you are seeking, only he should answer. He may be unwilling to answer your questions, which is only another indicator as to why you would want to stay with a man that you cannot TRUST. Keep in mind, that the relationship he’s having with the other woman may be a fling, a one night stand, or so serious that he may be thinking of leaving you, but rest assured, if he has cheated on you, he will cheat on her, if he can’t be trusted to remain faithful in a committed relationship he may be untrustworthy in all aspects of his life.
If after confronting your spouse / partner, he shows NO signs of:
REMORSE, WILLINGNESS TO WORK ON THE RELATIONSHIP, WILLINGNESS TO SEEK PROFESSIONAL MARITAL COUNSELING, WILLINGNESS TO REGAIN YOUR TRUST AND WILLINGNESS TO ANSWER ALL OF THE WHY QUESTIONS THAT HAVE BEEN CONTROLLING YOUR THOUGHTS then, I suggest you:
LET HIM RUIN THE OTHER WOMAN’S LIFE AND MOVE ON TO THE GREATER LIFE GOD HAS IN STORE FOR YOU!
Lyric Golden Leigh
