DON’T IGNORE THE SIGNS
HE, SHE OR THEY’RE CHEATING IF:
OBVIOUS SIGNS
Ignores or does not answer incoming calls
Goes to the bathroom in the basement incredibly early in the morning or extremely late at night
Frequently needs some AIR (usually sneaking a call in or out)
Takes the cell phone EVERYWHERE even in the bathroom
He’s ALWAYS texting
He talks in code, quick answers that always end with, Let me call you back, let me get back with you
He sits in the driveway 5, 10, 15 minutes after arriving
He’s particular about his clothing (no longer wearing undershirts with holes) which were perfectly okay before.
Takes a shower as soon as he gets home (if he hasn’t always done so)
He’s not hungry when he gets home from work (a little later than usual)
THE NOT SO OBVIOUS SIGNS
He and his girl-toy talk in Guy Code – Yo dude what you up to? Yeah, I’m down, I’ll holla at you later, better yet tell the guys I’m in, okay see you later. (None the date is on)
If his cell phone is visible, it’s usually turned downward, but if it’s right side up, look for a drawing with his finger on the screen, that lets him know that you’ve tried to open, swipe or scroll through his phone
Keep you eye out for a BURNER PHONE; this he will guard with his life. He will hide this in places that you would never think to look like his boots, shoes, shaving kit even the ceiling tiles (lift them up if you notice one appears to have been moved, or wooden beams also in the ceiling, even in pots in the kitchen (these are just overnight temporary places that he’s sure you won’t find while he’s sleeping or in the shower.)
Pays little to no attention to you or on the flip side, he is overly attentive
He starts working overtime, but you do not see the extra income. In fact, check your bank account in search of frequent CASH withdrawals. Cash is used to prevent a paper trail. You’ll find that instead of more money coming in, you’ll see more money going out. UNLESS he/she is seeing someone with a substantial bank roll, then you’ll see him with things that were impractical and unaffordable before he began acting suspiciously. Look for new jewelry, new perfume / cologne, ties or he’s no longer concerned about the cost of gas or food.
His vehicle shows signs he has been with someone. Women are catty and will purposely leave things like hairpins, earrings, lipstick caps even press on nails under the passenger seat (somewhere that won’t be immediately visible to him.)
He’s always distracted, uneasy or calmer and uncaring about things that used to irritate him
He encourages you to go out, even a trip to the grocery store will offer at least 30 minutes to get a call in.
If you’ve gotten pass the obvious signs, you should know by now that your partner is UNFAITHFUL.
The question for you NOW is how long are you going to allow this dishonesty to continue?
YOU MATTER, YOU DESERVE LOVE, HAPPINESS, HONOR AND RESPECT. Some relationships are worth saving, some people are unwilling to be saved.
INFIDELITY BREEDS INSECURITY! There was something about you that led your partner to you, there’s something still in you that will allow yourself to attract someone who appreciates you and respects you as much as he/she appreciates GOD and HIM/HER Self.
